How can I help someone facing an unexpected pregnancy?
My partner just told me she is pregnant.
Hearing news like this can be overwhelming. You may feel stunned, terrified, even angry. This wasn’t what you had planned. She needs your support now more than ever. She may be the one pregnant, but this involves both of you. Try to understand how she might be feeling instead of reacting out of fear and anger. She could be terrified and unsure about what to do next. Encourage her to get information about her options and to speak to someone who understands.
We are here for you too as you wrestle with your own thoughts and emotions and struggle to know how best to support her. You are welcome to come talk with us, whether with her or on your own.
My daughter is pregnant.
You may at first feel disappointed, angry or fearful for her future, but your daughter needs you more than ever. We understand that this is not what you had planned for your child. The decisions she makes today can impact the rest of her life. Encourage her to get information about all her options, so she can make an informed decision, and support her in that decision. We are also a safe place to help you process your own thoughts and feelings.
My friend just learned she is pregnant.
You don’t know what to do, what to say. Staying calm and helping her research all her options is one of the best things you can do. Offer real support by letting her know you are there for her. She needs to know you care, you are listening and that you will help her no matter what she chooses. We are here as an additional support to walk alongside her as she processes all that she is thinking and feeling.
What she most needs from you…
We know from experience that how we react and the language we use can have significant impact. As a partner, family member or friend, we can add to a woman’s feelings of fear, confusion and shame. Or, we can be a source of clarity, support and hope.
How Can I Help?
Listen, seek to understand.
Provide a safe, non-judgmental space where she can express her feelings and concerns.
Encourage her to be open about all that she’s thinking and feeling.
Facilitate open conversations that encourages honest sharing and exploration of emotions.
Remind her of her value and help create a vision for her future.
Affirm her dignity, ensuring she feel respected and valued, regardless of the situation.
Empower her with resources, referrals, and support.
Equip her with additional support and resources to help her make a well-informed decision, and be there for her, regardless of the final outcome.
“I struggled a lot in the beginning with whether or not I was going to follow through with my pregnancy. I talked to my mom, and we decided that I should go to PPSC. I would explore my options and take things one step at a time.”
—Client